Grief Therapy
There isn’t a cure, but there is a way through.
You’re the helper. The strong one.But grief doesn’t care that you’re the one everyone else leans on.
Grief hits all of us at one time or another, there is no escaping it. Whether you're grieving a death (of a loved one or pet), a breakup, a career change, or the life you thought you’d have, the loss has left you reeling. And despite what you know about grief, you weren’t prepared for how messy and overwhelming it would feel in your own body and mind. It doesn’t follow a neat and tidy flow of moving from one stage of grief to the next.
But what happens when you are so good at caring for others, that your own grief knocks you off kilter? It might show up as:
You are sad all the time, and unable to care for yourself or others the way you normally do.
You get hit with intense emotion unexpectedly, sometimes over the most mundane things.
You feel like you are walking around in a fog all the time; it is so hard to focus or care about much of anything these days.
Your mind can’t help replaying things you regret or things you wish you had a chance to do differently.
You realize you have a lot of emotions about the person you lost, but it was never safe to explore these before.
You think you are managing your sadness well, but seem to be more irritable with people around you.
You are now more scared than ever of losing other important people too.
You’ve become more anxious about losing others too.
You find yourself asking big, existential questions you never used to think about.
Even your most supportive people don’t quite know how to help—and that makes you feel even more alone and ashamed.
Grief changes you. It opens questions you never expected and breaks things you didn’t know could break. But you don’t have to navigate that darkness alone.
In therapy, we make space for the full weight of your loss—without rushing it—while also gently helping you reconnect with meaning, self-compassion, and the possibility of feeling whole again.
Healing doesn’t mean forgetting—it means finding your way forward, in a way that honors what you’ve lost and who you’re becoming.
My approach to therapy to get you un-stuck from grief.
Even though you might already have knowledge and skills about handling grief, when grief gets sticky, it often means you have some beliefs about yourself that are getting in the way of moving through it.
Because of this, the first thing we will do is get to know each other a bit. As a grief therapist, I’ll help you explore not only what you are experiencing now, but we’ll also chat about how you experienced life growing up. We are doing this intentionally, not because we want to just complain about the past, but rather because we want to discover where these sh**ty beliefs about yourself came from, so that we can start to re-write them!
During our sessions together, you are going to be able to experience things that you missed out on when you were growing up: a non-judgmental, curious person who welcomes all of your emotions and Parts (think of the movie Inside Out)! This is not fluff and it is not “just talking”—this is where the “rewiring” of your brain happens, as it starts learning that feeling emotions can actually be safe and people can still want to connect with you! You will learn how to do the same for yourself, the more often you experience it in session.
In addition to using Attachment Theory and being Internal Family Systems (IFS) informed, part of what sets me apart from other therapists is that I often incorporate Law of Attraction (aka manifesting) and Spiritual Reparenting (not religious) tools to help you understand and heal the many layers of grief, and maybe even start to answer some of those big life questions that seems to come along with “death”. You can learn more about these unique therapy options by clicking here.
You might never be the same after a loss, but you CAN learn how to ride the waves of grief as small waves, instead of being overtaken by a tidal wave.
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Therapy with me is…
A compassionate, non-judgmental space to get to know yourself in a new way
Co-creative: we’ll each come with ideas and see where it takes us
Mixed with humor, swearing, and connection
Different than other therapists, because of the energy & spiritual components to speed the healing
Therapy with me is not…
A place where you get told all of the things that are wrong with you
A rigid protocol
Me sitting there nodding with a notepad in hand (like they depict on tv)
Only learning coping strategies that you could learn on social media
Maybe you are thinking about starting therapy to help with your grief…but you have some questions
How do I know if my issues are “bad enough” to justify therapy?
This is a textbook example of someone who learned that their feelings, needs and desires were not important! You might have learned you only get paid attention to when things were really bad. Even if you are not “in desperate crisis”, you deserve to feel more ease and confidence than what you have been feeling.
Won’t my grief just get better over time?
There is no cure for grief, and there is no defined timeline for when it will be “done”. But you know yourself well enough to know that something feels “stuck”, and it means there is some other stuff going on behind the scenes. There are lifelong patterns that have been going on, even if some of the time they were more subtle. But when you tackle the true root of the issues (what you were taught to believe about yourself), you change how you move through grief.
Can’t I just figure this out on my own by reading books, listening to podcasts, and talking with my friends?
All of these can definitely help, but…if they were enough to fix the problem, they would have already. Healing and rewiring your brain to believe different things about yourself comes from healing experiences, not just from learning new information or chatting with friends.
It will never be the same, but therapy can guide you to discover a new happiness that you never imagined was possible.
Is this really going to be worth the investment of time & money?
I encourage you to take an honest evaluation of the cost of NOT treating how grief is affecting you: how is it impacting your physical health? Your marriage? You children’s wellbeing? Your success at work? Guess what: all of those can have WAY BIGGER impacts on your finances and time if things get worse.