Relationship Issue Therapy
It’s time to move past people-pleasing, fear of conflict, isolation & repeating patterns!
You’re tired of playing peacekeeper, mind-reader, and emotional caretaker in every relationship.
You have been putting your own feelings, needs and desires aside for so long, it might feel like this is “just who you are”. It might be such an engrained pattern that you might not even be aware it is happening…until one day, you do. Whether it is your romantic relationship, family relationships, or friendships, you are realizing that things don’t feel as good as they once did. It might show up as:
You’ve always prioritized others’ needs—but now you’re noticing simmering frustration, resentment, or even full-blown anger.
The idea of conflict makes your stomach churn, so you avoid it at all costs—even if it means swallowing your truth.
You struggle to even know what you want, let alone how to ask for it.
Boundaries feel awkward or guilt-inducing, so you end up giving in… again.
Even your closest relationships don’t feel emotionally safe—you’re always scanning for disapproval or withdrawal.
You seem to repeat the same dynamics in multiple relationships (aka, “Why do they always seem to leave me?”, “I seem to end up with emotionally unavailable people.”, “I am always the giver in the relationship.”)
You’re starting to realize that feeling unsafe in relationships isn’t just a personal flaw—it’s what happens when no one ever showed you how to truly give, receive, or repair connection.
Connecting with the right therapist might be the first time you experience feeling fully seen and supported, and this changes everything. It’s time to start some new patterns.
It is finally time for YOU. You are worth the investment.
How therapy with me can help how you with relationship issues
Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship. So in order to tackle relationship issues, you need to first understand how paying attention to yourself got lost. Even though you might already have knowledge, skills, and experience with helping others, you might still go into “fight-flight-or-freeze” mode when it comes to tuning into your own inner world!
Because of this, the first thing we will do is get to know each other a bit. As a relationship therapist, I’ll help you explore not only what you are experiencing now, but we’ll also chat about how you experienced life growing up. We are doing this intentionally, not because we want to just complain about the past, but rather because we want to discover where these sh**ty beliefs about yourself came from, so that we can start to re-write them!
During our sessions together, you are going to be able to experience things that you missed out on when you were growing up: a non-judgmental, curious person who welcomes all of your emotions and Parts (think of the movie Inside Out)! This is not fluff and it is not “just talking”—this is where the “rewiring” of your brain happens, as it starts learning that feeling emotions can actually be safe and people can still want to connect with you! You will learn how to do the same for yourself, the more often you experience it in session.
In addition to using Attachment Theory and being Internal Family Systems (IFS) informed, part of what sets me apart from other therapists is that I often incorporate Law of Attraction (aka manifesting) and Spiritual Reparenting (not religious) tools to help you find your confidence in your relationships quicker! You can learn more about these unique therapy options by clicking here.
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As your beliefs about yourself start to change, you start to show up in all of your relationships differently. You find your voice. You hold your boundaries. You get more of your needs & desires met.
(Note: As a relationship therapist, I only work with individuals, not couples or families. I am happy to provide referrals for these, but know that the best chance of overall success stems from getting to heal yourself first.)
Therapy with me is…
A compassionate, non-judgmental space to get to know yourself in a new way
Co-creative: we’ll each come with ideas and see where it takes us
Mixed with humor, swearing, and connection
Different than other therapists, because of the energy & spiritual components to speed the healing
Therapy with me is not…
A place where you get told all of the things that are wrong with you
A rigid protocol
Me sitting there nodding with a notepad in hand (like they depict on tv)
Only learning coping strategies that you could learn on social media
Maybe you are thinking about starting therapy to help with your relationship issues…but you have some questions
How do I know if my issues are “bad enough” to justify relationship therapy?
This is a textbook example of someone who learned that their feelings, needs and desires were not important! You might have learned you only get paid attention to when things were really bad. Even if you are not “in desperate crisis”, you deserve to feel more ease and confidence than what you have been feeling.
Won’t my relationship issues just go away after my _____ circumstance goes away?
In most cases, no. What I notice with my clients is that when one circumstance goes away, another that feels a similar way seems to appear. There are lifelong patterns that have been going on, even if some of the time they were more subtle. But when you tackle the true root of the issues (what you were taught to believe about yourself), you change what you attract to you.
Can’t I just figure this out on my own by reading books, listening to podcasts, and talking with my friends?
All of these can definitely help, but…if they were enough to fix the problem, they would have already. Healing and rewiring your brain to believe different things about yourself comes from healing experiences, not just from learning new information or chatting with friends.
Is this really going to be worth the investment of time & money?
I encourage you to take an honest evaluation of the cost of NOT treating your relationship issue: how is it impacting your daily stress level? Your physical health? You children’s wellbeing? Your success at work? Guess what: all of those can have WAY BIGGER impacts on your finances and time if things get worse.
Time to Heal Yourself
Time to Heal Yourself
Scheduling VIRTUAL SESSIONS ONLY throughout Michigan
755 W Big Beaver Rd Suite 475, Troy, MI 48084